Updated: Jul 26, 2019
Science Behind It: According to psychologist, Dr. David CcClelland, you are the average of the 5 people that you spend the most time with. Think about that for a second? Who are you spending time with and what do you do? What do you talk about? Are they dysfunctional? Do they complain? Are they even HAPPY?.....
Just really take a moment and really think about that, lean into that question.....
Now that you have, let me say this that I am not advocating alienation or be home alone all the time. This is more of a "Let's take Stock" of who your group is and why that is a reflection of yourselve. Most people that come to me say either 2 things:
a) I have no support system
b) My friends don't believe or want the same things that I want.
That is an issue, because at the end of the day the people that you are spending your time with should be align with you and what you want, otherwise, it is to much of a contradiction of each other. Remember every day you only have so much energy to give, SO why are you waiting on things that are not aligned with you and your desires???
Let me ask you this question, at night are you able to go to bed in peace and rest? If not why, are you worried, stress, thinking about problems, asking yourself what you are doing wrong? Well what happened in your day and who were you with and what did you talk about? Dysfunction, stress, and problems just do arrive all day everyday. I know sometime things happen, but if you fill your life with drama then of course drama is going to come.
What I really want to get across is if you treasure your time, space, and energy make sure that the people that fill that quality people. With the things that you really want and need in your life. Love yourself enough to say I know that we have been friends since 1st grade but I am going to choose to love you from a distance. And the truth is, that there is nothing wrong with that. So "Take Stock" and see what they are bringing to the table, because if you know what you are bringing, you won't be afriad to eat alone!